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A lot of people engage in self pleasure, but unfortunately most people are:
Touching themselves wrongly.
Using self pleasure as an escape from sexual activity.
Claiming abstinent or celibate despite been actively involved in self pleasure.
I already wrote two articles in relation to this The forbidden Touch and Touch Yourself Right. If you're reading this and you engage in self pleasure for whatever reason allow me burst your bubbles by telling you that you're touching yourself wrongly, reason why I'm writing this for us to really talk about masturbation.
For years, masturbation or self-pleasure has been wrapped in silence, shame, and misinformation. Many grew up hearing that it’s sinful, dirty, or something only people without sexual partners do. But the truth is: masturbation is a natural, healthy sexual activity and one worth understanding with honesty and maturity.
Breaking the Myth: Is Masturbation a Sin?
Religious and cultural teachings have shaped how many people view their bodies and pleasure. Masturbation is often labeled as a sin or moral failure. But science, psychology, and even many modern faith-based health practitioners now recognize that self-pleasure is not harmful or immoral especially when practiced with self-awareness and balance.
Pleasure is not dirty. It’s a normal part of being human.
Masturbation is a Sexual Activity
Some people believe that masturbation is just a replacement when sex isn’t available, like a second-best option. But let’s be clear: masturbation is not a substitute for sex; it is sex. It engages your body, your mind, and your sexual energy. Whether alone or with a partner, it can be a way to explore, release, or even strengthen intimacy.
You’re not "settling for less" by masturbating. You're tuning in to your body. If you claim to be abstaining from sex, then you should also abstain from masturbating.
The Problem Isn’t Masturbation — It’s Excessive or Compulsive Use
Masturbation, in itself, does not cause erectile dysfunction, low libido, or relationship issues. However, when it becomes excessive or compulsive especially as a way to escape emotions, stress, or avoid intimacy problems can arise,this occurs as a result of not knowing how to touch yourself right.
Overuse can lead to:
Desensitization (difficulty feeling pleasure through normal touch)
Quick release/early ejaculation
Performance anxiety
Reduced interest in real-life partners
Porn addiction
In other words, the signs stated above are what you experience when you touch yourself wrongly.
Balance is key. The goal is not to stop completely, but to build a healthy, mindful relationship with your sexuality.
What Happens in the Body During Masturbation?
Masturbation activates your nervous system, hormones, and reward centers in the brain:
Dopamine is released, this is your “feel-good” hormone that motivates pleasure.
Oxytocin and prolactin are released after orgasm creating feelings of closeness, calm, and even sleepiness.
Nerve pathways in your genitals send signals to your brain, training it to respond a certain way.
Now here’s the issue with porn-based, rushed masturbation:
When your brain gets used to fast, intense stimulation (like what porn offers), your body learns to respond only to that. Over time, this can “train” the brain to release quickly or struggle to get aroused in real-life, slower, emotional settings. Masturbating to pornography stands in the gap of you enjoying sex with a partner in real life, leaving the both of you disappointed and frustrated.
A Tool for Self-Connection; Not Just Escape.
Masturbation shouldn’t be used only as a way to “get it over with” or escape emotional or sexual needs. It can be a beautiful way to:
Learn what feels good to you
Explore fantasies safely
Manage stress
Connect with your partner (through mutual masturbation or guided communication)
When approached mindfully, masturbation becomes a form of self-respect, self-awareness, and even self-care; not shame.
In Summary:
Masturbation is not a sin. It’s not second-best. And it’s not dangerous, unless done compulsively. It’s a sexual act that can build body awareness, boost mood, and even support intimacy with a partner. The goal is not just to release, but to connect with your body, your mind, and your sexuality.
Let’s normalize healthy pleasure. One honest conversation at a time.